Defined by googles dictionary as “deciding to do something difficult or unpleasant that one has been putting off”, ‘biting the bullet’ is something we MUST do in order to grow. If that resonates with you in any way, then this one’s for you.
“Just decide, what is going to be, who you’re going to be, how you’re going to do it, JUST DECIDE!” – Will Smith.
The thing with confidence and facing your fears is that it’s a choice, and a very simple one at that. What do you choose? – Yes or no? I’m not denying that it’s difficult, stepping out of your comfort zone can be one of the hardest decisions to make, but it’s still a decision and it’s YOUR CHOICE.
To feel confident or to at least ‘come across’ as confident, takes skill. The lucky among us may be born with an innate confidence, but for most of us, it’s something we must work at. Confidence can manifest in so many ways and we can be confident at certain things, in certain situations or with certain people. It is not black and white, it varies from person to person, from day to day and no matter how confident we are, we all still suffer with self-doubts and insecurities. But just like it can be lost or knocked, confidence can be built-up. It can grow and develop like any other skill.
True self confidence is the belief that you can accomplish anything, no matter the odds. Who can honestly say they have that belief? Unfortunately, I’m going to assume not many. The power of this belief however, has the ability to do great things. If we could master that self-belief, whether we’re confident or not, it will take us maybe an inch further than we would have been without it. Taking those very small steps forward each day will ultimately train our brains into believing that we are capable, we can do it and from that, builds confidence.
GET OUT THERE
“Step out of your comfort zone, because nothing ever grows there.”
Unfortunately, the only way to really grow and develop your confidence it through taking risks, stepping out of your comfort zone and doing the thing you’re afraid of. Easy right? Just do the thing you’re most afraid of, simple – I wish.
“Sometimes all it takes is the smallest step in the right direction. Tip toe if you must, but take the step.”
Like anything that’s difficult, long or complex… you can break it down. Smash that ultimately terrifying fear into small manageable steps. You may have to repeat a few over and over until they feel comfortable, but each time you push yourself a little harder, you’ll find yourself managing better and better until you no longer fear it.
REPEAT AND PERSIST
“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” – R. Collier.
As briefly mentioned above, repeating something WILL make it easier. I don’t believe in ‘practice makes perfect’, because no one is perfect and we mustn’t try to be, but practice most definitely makes us better at something. Building your confidence can be a long process and it takes discipline to stick with it, to persist and push yourself further each day. Along the way we will come across resistance, adversity and even failure. It may push us back a step or two, but we must continue to persist, to push past the adversity and to not accept the failures.
Discipline, persistence and hard work, that’s enough to develop any skill!
SHUT OUT NEGATIVITY
“A NEGATIVE mind will never give you a POSITIVE life.”
This is KEYYYY! Shutting out negativity, whether that be what you tell yourself about yourself or what you hear from those around you. Negativity has the power to drag you down and what you tell yourself is the most powerful thing of all. Create your own positive affirmations and make sure that what you’re saying to yourself is building you up, not beating you down.
You may have heard the theory that ‘we are who we surround ourselves with’. So, make sure you’re surrounding yourself with positive, hard-working and ambitious people. Of course, we can’t avoid every negative person – wouldn’t that be great. Sometimes a person you work alongside, live near or study with can express negative behavior and unfortunately you can’t simply shut these people out. Instead, make sure that the people you’re spending the MOST time with are influencing your life for the better. Perhaps that’s a particular friend or family member, a positive podcast or your favourite motivational speaker, whoever it is, seek them out!
These are things that none of us do enough, but like negativity, consuming positivity will lift us up, not to mention boost our confidence.
IN SUMMARY; You are who you surround yourself with, facing fear is a decision, self-confidence is a skill and the only way to grow is to persistently push yourself.
Let’s get out there and bite that bullet.
Thanks for reading, I really hope you enjoyed it and that you could relate in some way. If so, please don’t forget to hit ‘like’ and comment below with your top tips for confidence building. I really appreciate hearing from you and your support doesn’t go unnoticed.
Love you and leave you! xo